Get a frickin' backbone!

Ok. So I know we all have our problems and bad habits....and sometimes we want to sincerely quit and stop them forever. Some of the people I love the most (which include my parents and husband) are tangled up in the habit of smoking and/or dipping. I myself am completely grossed out by both....but WHY is it SO hard to just put it down and never pick it back up again? Or use another means to help quit the habit? Especially if you say you want to quit?....and if you promise others you are going to quit?? It baffles me to no end. I have been told by the same people over and over that "this is the last one" "I'm done" and so on. But nope....not yet......
I have just always been of the belief that if you say you are going to do something....then you need to do it. Or at least put every effort you have within you to accomplish what it is you set out to do.
I have figured out that it is too hard to quit for your daughter or children, it is too hard to quit for your fiance, it is too hard to quit for your wife, its too hard to quit for yourself and it is even too hard to quit for God himself. I mean, even in the bible it says we are not to be mastered by anything. ....So when is it time? What is it that will actually make "this one the last one"? What will it take to make you realize that you are not only hurting yourself- but everyone around you? When will it be time to take responsibility?
If anyone knows the answers to these questions, please let me in on them. And spare me the cheezy over-used answers like...."its just so hard" "I've been doing it for 20 years", "I'm gonna die anyway, so why not die happy", "I've quit before, I can quit again and anytime I want to", "It's my life and I can do anything I want to", and "I just can't do it".
If you are gonna say over and over that you are going to quit then you need to back yourself up and just do it. Give yourself some creditibility. Show other people that you care about yourself and other people.
And by the way, I am just a little bitter because I have lived with these lies for my whole life and now a new wave of them have emerged. So for all of you who are wrapped up in the same habits....please if you are going to do them, realize the possible consequences and don't apologize or lie about quitting when you know good and well that will never happen in a million years.
And for those who do say you will quit--but then spill out all the lame excuses and lies.....realize that YOU pick it up. YOU put in in your hands. YOU put it in your mouth. It starts and ends with YOU. So....if YOU don't pick it up....and YOU don't put it in your hands....and YOU don't put it in your mouth.....it ends. PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

Unless YOU let it in

-all the water in the world could not sink a ship

unless YOU let it in.

Unless YOU let it in

-all the bad things, all the habits, all the sin could not have a foothold

unless YOU let it in.

Be bold and strong.....and you can accomplish more than you think.
-jen